"One of the 33 books everyone should reading before turning 30." -- The Independent

"I am not the hero in this story . . . I am the villain."

In this highly acclaimed and revelatory classic, New York Times and Rolling Stone journalist Neil Strauss embarks on a deeply personal quest to discover why the rate of infidelity, divorce, and marital unhappiness is so high - and what we can do about it. In this quest to heal his intimacy issues, he explores love addiction and love avoidance; sex addiction and sex anorexia; enmeshment and abandonment; and, most importantly, why so many people attract the partners most likely to wound them. What he discovers about himself--and what you will discover about yourself and your partners from reading this--will change the way you date, love, and commit.

In this highly acclaimed classic, New York Times and Rolling Stone journalist Neil Strauss embarks on a deeply personal quest to understand how to make relationships work. And to discover why infidelity, divorce, and marital unhappiness rates are so high--and what we can do about it. He explores love addiction and love avoidance; sex addiction and sex anorexia; enmeshment and abandonment; and, most important, why so many people attract the partners most likely to wound them. What he discovers about himself--and what you will discover about yourself and your partners from reading this--will change the way you date, love, and commit. It will also change your most central relationship: the one you have with yourself. "The sins of the parents are the destinies of their children," he writes. "Unless the children wake up and do something about it."